Chemistry and Relationships

Chemistry and relationships-- a topic that haunts us those seeking to find, build, develop and maintain a meaningful and deep relationship with the one. But do we know the true meaning of chemistry?

I recently came across an article written by Toni Coleman, LCSW, in which she points out that we, human beings, tend to confuse romantic love with great sex. Yeah, that sex that makes our body sweaty, tingle with excitement, our toes curl and explode in a great orgasm (actually, my interpretation... but you get the point) We confuse the two because we are missing spiritual affinity.

Toni tells us that spiritual affinity is " the hidden element of chemistry. It's when two beings meet and connect on a deeper level. It can only be felt in the heart and soul. It's about friendship, respect, humor and the feelings of warmth and contentment that come when you are in his/her presence.'"

Let us not fool ourselves into believing that spiritual affinity, as Toni says, is immediate. It happens over time as more contacts between the interested parties happen. It eventually leads to develop relationships based on trust, commitment, comfort and friendship.